Cultural Difference

It is rly difficult 4 me to understand people who came from other countries.
I am always trying to do my best to understand their habits, behaviors based on their culture.
But, you know, I've never studied abroad before.
Then, how could I know other countries' culture deeply? Nah!! I can't, right??

I can't understand an American boy's behaviors these days.
I could hear what he said even though he spoke in English. BUT!!
But I wasn't able to understand his thoughts and feelings and behaviors AT ALL!!

Even though I am a person who loves English and talking with Int'l students, I AM JAPANESE.
There are many many Japanese students who don't wanna talk with Int'l students coz of the difference of languages. They are afraid of making mistakes. I mean it is scary for them to make themselves misunderstood to Int'l students. They think they can't fix the relationship coz of their poor English if they said something bad and Int'l students felt very uncomfortable.
Actually, I feel same way as them.
I am also afraid of those possibilities. Especially Im rly afraid of love affairs...

I donno which behavior is for a girlfriend. Which is the one you can do to both friends and a girlfried?? Which is right and wrong??It is a very big prob 4 me. I've been always suffering from those probs.

Yet, I wanna know other cultures more and make friends all over the world.
So, I am doing my best to improve my English and talk with them every day.

I already had a lot of trouble in the past with not only Japanese boys but also Int'l students.
I have many bad love affairs in the past.
I think these bad experiences piled up and became my big Traumas.

As for this time, he was rly rly nice to me at first.
He was a good listener and he've never denied me.
I thought he was a real gentle man. I believed he was kind and thoughtful and trustworthy.
I was rly stupid coz I started to think that I can get over from my past with him. Provably, I just wanted to believe so...
However, I think I was so smart coz I didn’t trust him very much. My heart alarmed to have a close relationship with him. So, I’ve done some precautions. So, I don’t have to regret anything now. That was rly nice protection, I think.

Anyway, I feel that I can’t trust any boys now coz he became one of my pretty bad experiences.

Can you say every girls around you "U r beautiful", "U r attractive.", and "I want you." in your culture?? Is it common in America?? You explained that the reason why you said those things is that you wanted to encourage me to have a confidence on myself, ha?
O K THX very much.
But it is not your business and is it rly the best way??
I strongly disagree with you!!
...Maybe in your culture, you can say that. But don’t do that in Japan. Saying such things based on such a reason is rly rude!! I felt very uncomfortable.

Can you hag a female friend tightly?? Or can you touch her body?? Or can you put your head on her thigh and lie down??
…Maybe you can do in your country. But here is Japan. We never do that to friends!!

Can you go to a female friend’s home in which she is living by herself?? And stay over night?? Can you take off your cloths except your underwear; I mean pants, in front of her??
…No Way!! I think you can do that to your best female friend. But are we best friends?! Nah, I don’t think so. Coz you came to Japan from this April, right?? Too short to be best friends coz we didn't always see each other, don't you?!

Do you rly think the “period” is the most important thing when a boy and a girl go out together?? Is short term relationship bad?? Is it rly difficult to have a long term relationship??
…I think the most important thing is “tie of hearts”. You just wanted to play with “quiet”, “Vague (cannot say NO)”, and “easy to obey” Japanese girls, NO??
I felt so during our discussion yesterday.
I don’t wanna be one of the girls who played with you.
NEVER, EVER, FOREVER!!!!!

Well, fortunately, you didn’t hurt my heart at all, coz I didn’t crush on you.
Potentially, I didn’t trust you and I was right. I was sooooooooo lucky coz I’ve surely learned a lot from my past; not to believe boys who say “I like you, I can understand ur feeling” easily.
This time, I was just confused very much and felt very bad.
But, that is it.

You, however, already hurt a girl’s heart who was your girlfriend only for 5 days at the beginning of April. Now, she doesn’t talk with you, never. She got big happiness these days. Her boy is rly nice and he consider ‘bout her more than himself unlike you.
Don’t stimulate her anymore.

I should be smarter than now. I won’t show my true heart to you anymore. I also won’t show my hostility to you. Coz being emotional and showing anger are not good way to survive in the world.
Besides, this time, I was also stupid. Coz I believed you a lil bit despite you are rotten. That was my fault.

Yet, thank you very much. I learned a lot from you.

Not ironically, I thought that I have to consider the cultural differences more seriously.
Eventually, it is a very very big prob in Japan, especially in my university.

I want Int’l students to do their best to know our culture more.
We need GR8 efforts to get to know each other more deeply.

I gatta learn.